Success arises our of steady accumulation of advantages: when and where you are born, what your parents did for a living, and what the circumstances of your upbringing were all make a significant difference in how well you do in the world.
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Cultural legacies are powerful forces. They have deep roots and long lives. They persist, generation after generation, virtually intact, even as the economic and social and demographic conditions that spawned them have vanished, and they play such a role in directing attitudes and behaviour that we cannot make sense of our world without them.
Are You Hitting The Snooze Button In Your Life?
This is so true!
I should stop hitting the button too..
Are You Hitting The Snooze Button In Your Life?
7 Habits of Highly Effective College Students
- Be proactive
- Begin with the end in mind
- Put first things first
- Think win-win
- Seek first to understand, then be understood
- Synergize
- Sharpen the saw
Handling Criticisms
How do you handle criticisms when they are displayed before you with different intensities, ranging from mild assertions to stinging words thrown straight in your face?
Stop Being Defensive and Start Examining Yourself
In all cases, criticism usually arises out of something that you did or didn’t do. The most difficult task is to separate the facts from the emotions. The next step is to objectively look at the results and ask how you played a part of it. For example, if you were criticised for making bad decisions that caused poor results, examine how you made it happened. This is because if you were to instantly be defensive, self evaluation will not occur at all.
A cognitive psychological tool called Johari window also states that everyone has a blind spot. This represents information that a person is not aware about themselves but others are aware of it. Therefore, it is imperative to listen what the criticism is and find out whether there is any truth in that statement.
Change Yourself
Change does not usually happen at a cognitive level but usually happens at an emotional level. For example, even if you are overweight and know that you have to lose weight, you might not be doing anything significant about it. This is the cognitive level. However, when things happen at an emotional level, the results might be longer lasting.
So, ask yourself the tough question what do you need to change? By not making a decision is also making a decision not to do anything. Change only comes in when you demonstrate the resolve and absolute desire to make it happen (and of course, take MASSIVE ACTION on it).
It is also good to thing about the good outcomes from the positive change in your life. Know that everything comes with a cost, even with change. So, discipline and intense resolution is required to make the change.
Understand that Criticism is inevitable
Criticism; whether it is given with true intentions or destructive in nature, are always inevitable.
Here are some questions to determine if criticism is helpful:
- Who said it? Sometimes harsh words from a wise man are better than the loving kisses of fools.
- What was the spirit behind it? Is it to help or tear me down?\
- What is the truth? I need to determine if what was true and how I should address it.
Let go and move on
What happens when you feel that after much self examination, there is really nothing wrong with yourself? There are people who will constantly grew angry and frustrated because of what other people said to them. They are not able to let go and move on in their lives.
Secure people can see that they are fallible and know what their weaknesses are. The good thing is that they make a conscious decision not to get bonded by the negativity and move ahead fresh. If you keep harping about the past, you will never be able to take on the new possibilities in your life.
John Maxwell in an article shares that “while we are growing up, a lot of us spend a good deal of time worrying about what the world thinks of us. By the time we reach 60, we realize the world wasn’t paying much attention.”
Conclusion:
Some of the best people that entered into your life were your critics, not friends. Treat criticisms with a certain respect, learn from it and then move on in your life
Win People Over Rather Than Win Arguments
I found this fascinating quote today:
Winning an argument is tempting for most people working in a team. Who does not wish to be right? Who does not want to have the last say and feel victorious? But if your focus is on the team’s progress and not on personal whims, sometimes it is better in the first place not to get into an argument. The best way to get your message across to people is to win them over instead of winning an argument with them.deepimpactonline.com, Win People Over Rather Than Win Arguments, Mar 2010You should read the whole article.
Never Give Up!
Specially for my Dear! Be Strong!
"The challenges in our lives are there to STRENGTHEN our CONVICTIONS. They are not there to run us over."
How do you think?!
If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't!
If you'd like to win, but you think you can't,
It's almost certain you won't.
If you think you dare not, you don't!
If you'd like to win, but you think you can't,
It's almost certain you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost;
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will;
It's all in the state of mind!
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will;
It's all in the state of mind!
If you think you're outclassed, you are;
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself
Before you'll ever win the prize.
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself
Before you'll ever win the prize.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the person who thinks he can!
Yay! Its study break but the weather is not making it conducive to study. My room is like a mini sauna. You can really sweat it all out by just sitting at the table. I wish my fan is much nearer to the table and not the bed:S so warm so warm!To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the person who thinks he can!
I haven't really finished revising for all my subjects. Having so many open book exams is totally not good. So many things to read and understand because you won't really have much time to flip the pages and I doubt you can really find the answers but there's too much to read - because it's an open book exam, you are expected to be able to find the answers (although the tutor might not have teach).
So far, I manage to complete half of my biz law and half of accounting. Ha-ha..I always do things halfway, it's just too boring studying the same subject over and over again - need some change. Anyway, I hope I will complete revising for accounting today. Then can start of microeconomics real soon. This is the subject that I have least confidence in.
I was supposed to go down to the study room or library today but I woke up late and the weather isn't that bad today. I think it rained this morning. So when I woke up at 7am, it's very cooling, very nice to sleep and I crawl back into my bed. He-he..so yeap..I'm back in my room studying, with my bed tempting me to sleep once in awhile..well, I can't help it, the fan is there..Ha-ha..okay I'm just giving myself excuses.
I was in the library yesterday and it was super packed. I haven't really seen so many people in the library and study room before. Everyone's studying hard. I guess I have to also. :P
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